You need to give your children more freedom. don't give them too much pressure, but also do not spoil them. teach them good stuff but don't be too harsh on them. if you yell or scold at them too much, then they will hate you and will be very annoyed by you. they are only kids, you can't be harsh on them or else they will probably not even listen to you at all. Just let them be kids. they have their own life too, you know?
